Shadow Dance & 7th House

The Amythst Ring

2011-06-25T11:17:00.001-07:00

Back in the early 90s I was in a prayer group with 3 other women. We would meet once a week at Exxon Chemical where 2 of them worked. They would reserve a conference room and we would meet there to do the Course in Miracles together (which is too complicated to do alone). I noticed that they all had amythyst rings and I decided I wanted one so periodically I would go looking for one but could never find one I liked. I wanted something antique looking and not just plain. So one year Valentine's day was coming and I didn't have anyone to buy me anything so I decided I am going to go look for a ring to give to myself. Well it so happened that that particular weekend before Valentine's we were having a psychic party where we would have readers at tables for the evening and the 4 of us invited all the friends we knew to come. AND there was a particular movie being shown at a community center called Center Point in Houston on Gnosticism which I wanted to see but I couldn't be both places at once so I went in the afternoon and I asked one of the founders of this place if she would tape for me. I gave her a cassette player and some cassettes because I thought even if I can't see the movie, I can hear it. Well the following day was Sunday and I went to the mall looking for a ring. Still nothing. I just didn't like any of what I saw and I went to two malls. Well Valentine's Day was on Monday and I went up to Center Point and walked in. The girl who was going to tape for me said, "OMG, I forgot all about taping for you! I'm sorry!" I said, "Oh well guess I wasn't supposed to hear it." I looked down at her hand and she had on an amythyst ring. All I said to her was, "Your ring." She took it off and gave it to me. She said, "Do you like it? Here. You wear it for awhile." I had chills go up and down my arms and I said, "You're not going to believe this but I have been looking for an amythyst ring because I thought I wanted to give myself one for Valentine's day since I have no boyfriend to give me one. I am in a prayer group with three women who all have one." She said, "Well I belong to a prayer group of 4 women too. We each had an amythyst ring and one by one they gave theirs away and I woke up this morning and I knew I wanted to give mine away. So it's yours Rebeca. God wants you to have it."

I have many of this kind of story and someday I will compile them all into a book because a good friend of mine named Earl (who died of alcoholism) said to me, "You know why I am your friend Rebeca? Because I love to hear your stories. Promise me you will write them all down someday." He died after that and I have a book I wrote but that will be my next book. It will be called “Healing the Broken Spirit Through Your Connection with the Divine." I felt my friend killed himself through drinking because he had lost faith in life itself. He never felt he was connected to the cosmos/God/spirit/the source whatever you want to call it. He seemed to always be on the side of bad fortune in his life. As everyone else, sometimes I too feel lost and alone in heart aches and misshaps. In the last few years I have been extremely challenged emotionally and financially in a way that has forced me to make many changes in my life. These changes although very hard are also very good in the long run. I am finding out who my real friends are in this tough time too and new ones have come along to replace the old ones who needed to go. With the North Node in Aquarius I am truly blessed with good friends in this incarnation.

I do miss my friend Earl still as he was a good man just very hard headed and opinionated and often he would drive people away from him by saying things he would not sensor. I would argue with him and not let him try to take me over. In other words I would stand up for myself. We would go round and round sometimes but often we would just have fun. We played tennis together a lot in those 14 years we were friends and he would beat me every single time. Then one day I beat him. 6-0, 6-0. We couldn't believe it. I was just playing really well that day and he wasn't.

Loving Earl just the way he was to me was an opportunity for me to walk my talk. I am a Jack of Hearts/9 of Spades. (re: Robert Camp books) I saw both sides of him and I loved him anyway but I also stood my ground when he would try to take over. My father used to call me the "Rebel". I have a mind of my own as they say. The apple never falls very far from the tree. :)

Projection and Transference Opportunities for Healing Our Splits

2010-04-27T17:34:00.000-07:00

By now a lot of us have heard the term projection but many may have not heard the term transference. Projection and transference are the same phenomena. Seeing in others or outside ourselves our own unconscious content. We transfer or project whatever we disown, deny or repress quite frequently— only we are not the one's doing it. Our unconscious projects itself because it wants to be known.

This unfortunately results in not really knowing the other person who receives the projection which is why real relationships take time as Saturn so patiently informs us. Saturn is exalted in the sign of Libra which means it works best when we slowly get to know others. So many people get into what I call "fast food" relationships — wanting intimacy NOW! That's fine in the first half of life when we are experimenting but in the 2nd half of life our values change and our needs are more concrete because we've experienced enough to find out more about who we are. I highly encourage people to wait 6 months at least before becoming intimate as so much more will be revealed.

Aquarius rules friendship. I see our relationships moving into a time where we become friends first so that we know that we truly like a person not just fall in love with them. We would still be their friend even if we were not their partner. Yes, we have to rise above the you belong to me and I belong to you standards of the past. It's more like you belong to yourself and you have to do what is best for you and I accept you, all of you, not just your good side. No one is going to magically always be on their best behavior.

Our best friendships that stand the test of time will go through periods of discomfort as we each project parts of ourselves we refuse to be on each other. It's inevitable that the closer you get to someone the more you will see these polarizations. And sometimes both people are doing the exact same thing or behaving the same way and accusing each other. Everyone benefits when honesty enters the picture and dialogue takes place. Nothing can be resolved without both parties communicating (and not after two bottles of wine)... :) Then projection becomes an opportunity for healing for both people. But it takes two who want the relationship to work.

So many people come to me and say "she's not the person I married" or "he changed into someone else". I would say they never got to know a real person. Usually the projections have to fall off first so you can look at the beloved as human and divine in one being. They won't always be what you want them to be. Wouldn't it be nice to know that the love of your life is also your best friend who you will actually get to know for real, the dark and the light? This is both giving and having the freedom to be ourselves. What a gift.

TIME TO GET PRODUCTIVE

2010-03-27T11:00:00.000-07:00

ALL of my astrological clients come to me with relationship issues and what they are going through is so specific to their chart. Without disclosing personal identification I am going to start describing some of these issues as they may be helpful to others who read my blog from time to time.

Here's one that was significant. This woman had several planets in Virgo in her 7th house including the Moon which told me she was not only highly critical, she also attracted partners who were critical of her. I told her if you BOTH recognize you have a strong critical streak, make a pact with your partner that if either of you starts nagging or fault finding and it's over the top (you can tell it's over the top by the emotion involved) that you will say out loud to each other: TIME TO GET PRODUCTIVE. Let's go clean out the garage or let's go work in the garden... Let's do something together to get busy until we calm down and can discuss whatever it is you want to discuss. This will depotentiate the critical streak inherent in your characters. You aren't going to get rid of this part of you so might as well learn ways to put it to good use. Instead of tearing each other to shreds with criticism, make yourselves become the Virgo TEAM! Remember the 7th house is what we can do together!

Then later instead of criticizing, how about asking for what you want! A wonderful concept. Easier said than done and takes practice, but practice makes perfect... hehe another Virgo term.

Rising Sign carries shadow content too!

2010-03-08T07:35:00.000-08:00

This past weekend I was giving a free lecture on my book, The Shadow Dance & Astrological 7th House Workbook at Spirit Quest Center in Spring, TX and a very interesting dialogue took place with one of the participants. In the discussion, she realized a lot of the qualities that were shadow content for her were actually the negative qualities of her rising sign. In my book, there are key words for each sign both the positive and the negative qualities as each sign has it's own dark side. Keeping in mind that dark is only hidden from consciousness and not necessarily evil.

Our Shadow, a concept of C. G. Jung is whatever we deny, disown, repress or project out because we don't know about it. It's basically in our unconscious.